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Reminder:You are beautiful !!!

A message on Self-Love…


Hey loves,

I just want to spread the word about self love. Let’s be honest beauty is in the eye of the beholder but you are beautiful regardless of what people around you may say. Now a days it’s all about the trends. “Is Kim Kardashian doing it?”  It’s all about the likes on social media. “Did I get 1000 likes yet?” Its about who has the bigger butt, breast or eyebrows. LOL maybe not the eyebrow part, but you get what I mean.Why must we subject ourselves to tons of makeup and surgery to be the image that is accepted. Makeup should be used to enhance what beauty you already have not change your face to look like someone else. Are we not accepted the way God made us.

Listen I get it, We are not perfect and maybe there are 1 or 2 things about yourself you would change, but when it gets so extreme that you or the people around you don’t reflectionrecognize you there is a huge problem. Look at Lil’ Kim you mean to tell me that she hated the way she look so much that she changed every part of herself to love herself. Why did she have to take it that far ? Why did she have to change her  nose, lips or even face period? Why did she have to change her body ? why did she change so much? These questions are hard to answer. I think about the young boys and girls that have to grow up watching this. What are we teaching them? If you or your friends don’t like something don’t worry,  just get surgery and tons of makeup. Are we teaching them you don’t have to love the way God made you. This is SCARY to me. I would hope this will not be the norm of the world. I would hope my nieces and nephews are not subject to this type of thinking.


I truly believe beauty is yours. Look in the mirror. You are the BEST  you that you know!!! Don’t let anybody take that way from you.. Don’t be brainwashed into the trends. Don’t be fooled by the nay sayers. No body is perfect but thats the best part of being you. Embrace your imperfection. Spread the word of self love so our kids don’t grow up to look like someone else.

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What’s Love???

What’s Love?? Might be one of the hardest questions to answer to a child or even an adult. There is so much we say we  love and the word now a days is used so lightly it looses meaning.

gold dress.jpg“I love that Dress !!!”

IMG_0530“I love your hair!! !”


ice cream“I love ICE CREAM!!!”



him-001.png“I love HIM!!”


I bring this topic up today because I was in my living room tonight working on some stuff and heard a couple pass by arguing very loudly. So loud I could still hear them with my headphones on. It took me back to a time where I thought I was in love and and also thought I was loved. If I knew what I know now I may have been able to avoid some heartache. So I am here to help with some advice.

First this is straight from the bible:
Love Is the Greatest

4Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 

1 Corinthians 13:4


Are you wondering  could this be LOVE?

ask yourself these questions:

  1. Does he use his words to hurt you?

  2. Does he allow time away?

  3. Does he blame you for things out of your control?

  4. Does he try to control your every move?

These are just a few questions. Remember  if you are unsure confide in a friend or family member, don’t keep it bottled in. Have a question or comment please complete form below.



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Nice words !!

Curlformers 3Friends? Couples? Dating? Married? and etc, How do you talk to your friends? How do you talk to your girlfriend when your happy? How about when your sad? Or even angry? This topic came to me as I recently had a young couple call me up because they were have a disagreement, which is normal in any relationship. There was one thing that was interesting to me as I was listening to the issues over the phone, I overheard some not so nice words being thrown around.


I was taken back a bit. Is this normal ? Is this suppose to be normal? Is it ok? I took a second to process what I was hearing and had to call them back. I thought to myself would I like my husband to talk to me like that? I thought again would this person want to be talk to like that? I don’t think so.

I called the couple back and address there immediate concerns. After I was able to help them come to an agreement I address the not so nice words.

I gave them these few points to help them :

  • Use your words to lift up not break down
  • Words can escalate even the smallest disagreement
  • You wouldn’t allow anyone to disrespect them, why would you?
  • Taking a moment to put yourself in their shoes helps to see a different perspective
  • When you feel your head getting hot take a second to regroup
  • Remember you don’t want to hurt the other person
  • Remember you wouldn’t want anyone talking to you any type of way

So next time you want to say something not so nice, take a second and think about it FIRST!!!! Disagreements are going to happen but how you handle it makes a world of a difference.

I really hope this was helpful!!! Any questions please don’t hesitate!!!